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[EnterpriseVideoRental]

Are we all missing something ?.

Do you have some sort or handicap ?.

There really must be something serious for you to be this way ?.

Do you have some sort or handicap? Yes, why do you want to know?

[platinum-holdings]

Do you have some sort or handicap? Yes, why do you want to know?

I guess people would be able to offer advice you could actually use, if you gave a bit of background about your situation. Otherwise, people will just presume that you are a child that can't do anything for himself.

By the sounds of it you need assistance getting in and out of vehicles. Why not phone some local taxi firms to see if they can provide this service, many taxi firms have people carriers in their fleet, which are more spacious and offer easier access to people with disablilties.

The only person stopping you is yourself.

[dragonmist]

My Grandson is 18, and Aspie. He can't travel on buses and trains alone. His sense of direction is nil, and he doesn't understand timetables as he is also Dyslexic. He is able to do more for himself as he gets older, but buses, trains, and going out to work are beyond him at present.
It's OK saying "my child has done this or that for years", but not all children are the same, especially if they have a handicap. I do voluntary work with children and young adults like this. My Grandson will decide some day soon that he wants to go out on the bus. It has to be when he feels ready. Until then he is accompanied.

[EnterpriseVideoRental]

Alright, i was born with learning disiabiltys which is why i goto a special college for people with learning disibltys.

I'm also to to well on my legs as i have bad hips.

[platinum-holdings]

My Grandson is 18, and Aspie. He can't travel on buses and trains alone. His sense of direction is nil, and he doesn't understand timetables as he is also Dyslexic. He is able to do more for himself as he gets older, but buses, trains, and going out to work are beyond him at present.
It's OK saying "my child has done this or that for years", but not all children are the same, especially if they have a handicap. I do voluntary work with children and young adults like this. My Grandson will decide some day soon that he wants to go out on the bus. It has to be when he feels ready. Until then he is accompanied.

I'm sure people here appreciate that others (perhaps including relatives and friends) have disabilities, conditions and other such difficulties that prevent them carrying out everyday tasks that the rest of us take for granted.

I think the problem here is lack of information, and that the OP would have got less abuse and more constructive comments had he given the rest of us a bit of an insight into his situation.

[platinum-holdings]

Alright, i was born with learning disiabiltys which is why i goto a special college for people with learning disibltys.

I'm also to to well on my legs as i have bad hips.

As you visit a college that caters for your diabilities, perhaps you could ask someone there to help you organise some suitable transport to visit your friend. Also i'm sure if you explained, that whoever you spoke to, would keep your conversation to themselves (i.e. would'nt tell your mum)

[Stu_Millard]

Just to get back to the original topic, should you obey your mother's wishes and not see this friend of yours: whilst I have to agree that it's none of your mother's business who you see, the counter argument for it is (as far as I am concerned); Friends will come and go, but your family will always be there. What's more important to you, a friend who can and probably will move on given time, or your family who will always give unconditional love?

Either way, like I said in my earlier post, get some balls and make up your own mind instead of asking us to do it for you and then making excuses for why what we've suggested won't work.

[sludgeguts]

but your family will always be there.

Not always Stu.

But, by comparison, friends tend to be more ephemeral

[diorella24]

The OP probably doesn't introduce himself with, "Hi, I have learning disabilities.." every time he speaks, so it probably just didn't occur as relevant at the time...

She obviously cares enough to look out for you for 21 years, so she would probably find a way to accommodate you seeing your friend.. Parents tend to put their child's needs/wants over their own, she won't abandon you over it if you just talk to her honestly about it. Personally, I'd drop any (barr one) friend for my mother, but then I wouldn't for my father.. depends on what sort of relationship you have to a family member..

[brianj1175]

i watchout for everything with my boys (i have 3 of them with asperges 1 has add ,1 has adhd aswell)bloody nightmare especially at this time of year i haven,t been able to get bugger all done first time i have had to do anything for a while .i do let my oldest go and see his friend but he has to take his phone with him no matter what just in case(which is more often than not).as you probably know one little screw up like his mate has already gone out and that,s it everything is up in the air because he finds it hard to deal with the fact that something has changed from the routine