elaine - plus 'smith' news
nope, honestly, none of my relatives mentioned my weight at all. i think they were possibly a bit overwhelmed by the news my father decided to get engaged on christmas day. made new year a bit of a trauma to be honest, but at least he's happy i suppose. at least he told us, unlike my sister-in-law's father (whose wife also died last christmas time) who decided to just wait until they noticed his girlfriend's engagement ring.
still, you got to laugh haven't you?
I must say congrats on your weight loss!!! Well done, you must be over the moon at your progress
All the best for your dad I guess I suppose it feels a bit soon but I'm sure he still loves your mum as my mum does my real dad (been remarried now about 25 years too!)
feebee xx
yes it does feel soon, i think that's why it bothers me. that, and the fact he says they didn't do it cause they're getting married or moving in together.Originally Posted by feebee65
I must say congrats on your weight loss!!! Well done, you must be over the moon at your progress
All the best for your dad I guess I suppose it feels a bit soon but I'm sure he still loves your mum as my mum does my real dad (been remarried now about 25 years too!)
I would feel it's a bit soon if it was me but what can you do eh? Parents eh? *rolls eyes*
When my mum got remarried it was about 3 years after my dad died. My sis still resents this, thought my mum should never remarry which is going OTT a wee bit!
Oh well see how it goes eh do you get on with his gf?
feebee xx
It's probably something you've heard before, but your Dad isn't being disloyal to your Mum. It's hard to take in , but in a way it's a compliment to your Mum, that he liked married life enough to wish to marry again. Probably badly put, but if their marriage had been hell on earth, he wouldn't have even considered remarrying. To you it seems too short a time. Maybe to him, it is a very long time. After being with your Mum for many years, he must miss having the company of another human being. Children and Grandchildren are very nice, but they are not there in the "wee small hours". If she's a 20 year old gold digger, I take it all back unreservedly.But, if she makes him happy, isn't that what counts in the long term. ((( Hugs))) Beryl
Hi again chloe ( was having a much needed bath )
maybe they did notice and where jealous
No im joking , im sure they must be pleased for you ( just thinking of some of my family members whenever i do something for myself ). ... but you would maybe be surprised how many people seem to like their friends / family members to keep the weight on.
God knows why ... to keep them grounded ? again out of jealousy ? WHO KNOWS.
You must feel like a new person. Same inside but totaly different on the outside.
BRILLIANT how you have sustained your weight loss. Losing a stone or two is no biggie as its way too easy for it to go back on and more besides but 5 stone + and counting.
EXCELLENT.
No-one who have not had weight issues would ever know just what an acomplishment it is either.
Still think they need to go to spec savers
Oh re your dad , does seem very soon after your mums tragic deathbut , better than he be lonely for the rest of his life.
elaine xx
it's like my sister-in-law said - "I know he's happy, and i know i should be happy for him, and i'm a grown-up, but it doesn't stop it feeling weird and me being upset about it does it?" - thought it summed up the whole thing perfectly
she is at least a lovely woman, who takes our feelings into consideration - she refused to stay over with dad, and went home every night, and also refused to have a big announcement of the engagement to show respect.
p.s. thanks for compliments re weightloss, still can't accept them (cause i'm a weirdo), but they are appreciated
very eloquent - i'd tried to see it from all angles, but this really helped me to see it even better from his point of view, so thank you for that BIt's probably something you've heard before, but your Dad isn't being disloyal to your Mum. It's hard to take in , but in a way it's a compliment to your Mum, that he liked married life enough to wish to marry again. Probably badly put, but if their marriage had been hell on earth, he wouldn't have even considered remarrying. To you it seems too short a time. Maybe to him, it is a very long time. After being with your Mum for many years, he must miss having the company of another human being. Children and Grandchildren are very nice, but they are not there in the "wee small hours". If she's a 20 year old gold digger, I take it all back unreservedly.
I consider myself quite lucky, my mother emailed me a few weeks ago to tell me she had gotten married again! ahh well, third time lucky, and who knows, if this one deosnt work out i might get an invite to wedding number four lol
There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)
Posting Permissions
Reply With Quote
